What is Holding Us Back ?

           Do you know why so many new year resolutions fail ? It's because sometimes rather than adding more things in your life, you can accomplish more by subtracting the things that are holding you back.

          What is holding you back from being the person you want to be ? There are the things by which you can let go what is holding you back.

  

        You get what, what you put in. If you don't put much, you won't get much out of it. The problem with people is that they want instant answers. They are looking for 2 minute solution to everything. Like  2 minutes maggie, they want instant happiness. This leads to disappointment. Don't go for shortcuts. Persistance is a strong will. People fail as they quit. Athletes put lots of years on practice for a few seconds or minutes of performance.

         Unwillingness to prepare is the another thing which holds you back. Winners put pressure on themselves. What is that pressure? That's the pressure of preparing and not worrying about winning. Pressure comes from being unprepared. There is no substitute, no options for preparation, practice, hardwork.

        When infants learn to walk, they keep falling, but to them it's not falling, it's learning. If they become discouraged, they would never walk. You have to lead when no one follows you. People with mental health believe in themselves no matter what until they win people over to their ways of thinking. Allen Car explains in his book ' The easy way to quit smoking ' that people stay in addiction because they are afraid of the unknown. Even though people know that their addiction is killing them they don't quit it. They know there life will become better but they hold on it while knowing that it is the thing that stopping you from getting what you want.

 

        Be confident. Think about the people who are poor, who don't get enough food to eat, shelter to sleep, who are handicapped but had succeed in life. There are lots to be thankful for.

 If you only think that what others think, you are not listening to yourself. Your attempts to gain approval from others will only hold you back. Sometimes its good to seek advice from others but don't constantly obey them. Listen yourself. Don't seek approval.  Self control, sacrifice, avoid distractions, stay focused. If you don't harness the flow of water, will never produce electricity. Proper direction leads towards the success. Sometimes the job we do is frustrating and we didn't like it, we want to quit it but have no energy to look for new one, we are afraid of qutting the job because of our responsibilities such as kids, family, education. But we forget that we have time to connect with other people in a meaningful way. 

       At the end of the day when you find yourself running on life's hamster wheel, ask yourself three questions -

1) am I able to change my thoughts ?

2) am I able to change my situation ?

3) am I able to change my perspective ?

  And by making this changes you can stay off from hamster's wheel. Sometimes we are trying to run away from frustrating situation and end up in worse place.

 Before moving into next act, make sure that you choose right path thus avoids jumping from one hamster wheel to another.

       A pause is the most productive time to manage yourself. Take a break observe your life from distance and once you feel fully recover ( energized ), then discover.  Collect the moments of joy whether its catching up with old friends or colouring whatever, those moments make you mindful. Those who can stay mindful in tough times, in stress they are the better thinkers. Fewer the distractions, more you become mindful. Be creative. Instead of compaining all the time, try to be creative, try something new. Turn your frustration in something meaningful that make you happy.

       Take some time, sit down and take look on the things that matters the most in your life. Here is the guide -

What does family mean to you, its of friends , relatives ? and how much they important to you ?, how often do you want to connect with different members of family ? Then next is work.. are you doing the work you love ? If not then which are the steps you take to get work that you love ? Others are adventures, music, art etc.  Make a roadmap and keep close to you like when we driving we keep track on map then reach to the destination.

        We try so hard to be someone we are not, try so hard to impress others and even harder to impress ourselves that we forget to live. A man's mind is like a garden. If we plant good quality seeds, we will have a good quality garden. But if you don't plant anything, something will grow and that will be weed. Growth in order to meaningful must be positive. Negative emotions challenge your mental Strength. You have the power to manage your emotions so that you think clearly. Emotions have a time and place. We all have this ego within us which tells us to make the wrong choices. If you manage this then your life will be better.

         Desire is what a boy with burnt legs set the world record in the one- mile run because of his desire to succeed. Desire is what made a Wilma Rudolph who is paralytic the fastest woman on the track at the 1960 Olympics, she won 3 gold medals. Leave your comfort zone and see the potential opportunities available for you.

           Three kinds of people in this world, 

1) The People who make things happen

2) other is the People who watch things happen

3) lastly the people who wonder what happened   

        In which category do you fall into ?