pub-5213417290591437 MOTIVATION ? IT'S RIGHT INSIDE YOU !: How to Control Anger Before Anger Controls You

Thursday, 9 July 2020

How to Control Anger Before Anger Controls You


 

  Anger triggers involves worrying about personal problems, feeling as your opinion or efforts are not appreciated, loosing your patience, negative criticism. Stress inturn leads to anger. In some stages of life we all feel this its healthy normal human emotion but when it gets out of control it becomes destructive.

    You want to learn how to handle your anger better then you are at right place. You can control anger before it controls you.



 Exercise-

     Best remedy is exercise,running, swimming, go to gym, play your favourite sport, dance, take a walk or just stand up and stretch. Get yourself time out from everything. Leave the stress at home. Exercise produces endorphins that make you feel good. If you can break a sweat, you will feel even better. Yoga relaxes your muscle and makes you feel much calmer.

Keep your head cool -

    When you get angry, try to keep your head cool which keep the situation from becoming disastrous one. Don't give reply immediately. Pause, pause and pause.

 Meditate-

     It has been shown that meditation helps to reduce anger if done consistently. Sit at a quiet place, closed your eyes, calm down and breath deeply. If you do it regularly, you will see a transformation in your concentration level.

Chillout music-

     Music has deep effect on each of us. Listen calming or classical music, listen natural sounds, chillout music that helps to lower your blood pressure, increases dopamine.


Sleep deprivation-

     Sleep deprivation can be strain on your nerves, reduce your cognitive ability, lower your concentration, reduce IQ. Get into habit of sleeping at the right time. For that you have to train your brain.If you have day and night work then take naps whenever you get time, relax and recharge.

 Laugh-

       Laughter is the best medicine. Accept those things that are beyond your control. We will die at the end then why are you stressing so much. Let it go. Humor releases your tension. Laugh, laugh and laugh. Nothing uplifts a bad mood as laughing. Play with babies, kids. Read jokes on social media, see laughing videos.

 Enjoy yourself-

     Take a day off. Give yourself a break. Do things that you really like. Relax.


Think about solution-

      Learn about mindset. Learn other ways to think about the problem. Do place yourself in the other person's place and then think. Work on resolving the issue. Remember that anger will not fix anything. Hug someone and move on. Say that I will think of solutions. I will not let my worry control me. I will not let my stress level break me. I simply breathe and it will be ok because I don't quit. Every problem has a solution.

 Count down -
         
         Count down upto 10 or start from 100. In that your heart rate will slow down, your anger will reduces. Uncontrolled anger may be dangerous to your health and relationships. In that moment, it's easy to say something but later you'll regret. Outbursts solve no problems but mature dialogue can help to reduce anger.

Forgiveness -

   Forgiveness is powerful tool that might strengthen your relationship.

 Write a letter-
   
      Write a letter to a person that made you angry. And then delete it. Sometimes you only want to express your anger, your emotions.

Willingness -

     Learn to identify needs by respecting self and others. Learn how to meet needs without hurting others.
 
   
 Turn anger into productive things -
   
 Convert your destructive emotions, feelings, anger, thoughts  into constructive and healthy outlets. Turn your anger into writing poetry, painting or into gardening.

Cognitive restructuring -

    This means change the way you think. When you are angry try replacing your thoughts. Instead of saying its end, i don't tolerate it, say like its ok I'm upset about it but its not the end of the world, getting angry will not fix anything.

 Take a time out -
 
      Change your environment.  Sometimes its our surrounding that gives us cause of irritation. Go for walk or go into nature, ride your bike. Do anything that calm your nerves and in turn reduces anger.

Talk to a friend -

  Talk to trusted, supportive friend who understands you and make you calm. Better communication, discussion lowers your intensity of anger.

Train yourself to listen -

    Instead of paying attention to language, tone focus more on what other person really seeks.
 
Prevention is better than cure -
  The mechanism of pressure cooker is very simple. You provide heat to cooker by putting on burner. You don't allow the cooker to release it's steam by closing outlet thus the steam accumulates inside and pressure builds and when the steam pressure reach a particular level, whistle is lifted to release pressure with sound.
         In the same way, when you allow anger, frustration to build inside you, one day it cause to loose our temper in the form of uncontrollable  anger. In that state you either destroy yourself or destroy others.


 Ask an expert-

      Get help from good therapist or mental health specialist, if your anger seems out of control and later causes you to regret or hurt someone. Some advice and support from others to manage anger.


Anybody can become angry that is easy but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree, at the right time and at the right purpose at the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.
                                              - Aristotle

Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that but you can change the way. Learn to manage your anger then you can manage all relationships, whether its personal or professional.

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